Hello everyone,
The question that has been raised lately is why women need the closure of a relationship while men are ok just by knowing that things might not go too well and the relationship will eventually fade out. As I have mentioned in my previous post, each situation is special and should be seen individually but I will try to share some observations from personal experience and generalize them a little. The first thing that we need to consider is age. It seems that younger guys/men need closure the least and I believe that is a result of their difficulty to take on the responsibility of the closure. In addition, a lack of closure of the relationship also gives them the ability to reunite with their partner or attempt to do so while a closure would signify that they need to make a much larger efffort to "reopen" the book of the relationship. Conversely, women need the closure of the relationship if the relationship seems to be fading for 2 reasons. The first one is the confirmation that something has ended in order to be psychologically "free" to move on since women (the majority at least) tend to prefer being in one commited relationship at a time. The second reason has to do with women's innate need for certainty and security. Of course you are wondering how closure of a relationship provides security and certainly. Well, it is simple: by having (an appropriate hopefully) closure of a relationship the woman is able to justify to herself that for whatever reason that relationship had to or was forced to end and close. In that case, it is easier for a woman to be able to accept and justify it to herself and as a result move one more quickly or at least with certainty and knowledge of her next step. The question then becomes which of the two genders is stronger? The one that needs closure or the one that can live without it? Well, I will discuss that question in my next post. I am interested to hear your opinion on what we discussed today first!
The question that has been raised lately is why women need the closure of a relationship while men are ok just by knowing that things might not go too well and the relationship will eventually fade out. As I have mentioned in my previous post, each situation is special and should be seen individually but I will try to share some observations from personal experience and generalize them a little. The first thing that we need to consider is age. It seems that younger guys/men need closure the least and I believe that is a result of their difficulty to take on the responsibility of the closure. In addition, a lack of closure of the relationship also gives them the ability to reunite with their partner or attempt to do so while a closure would signify that they need to make a much larger efffort to "reopen" the book of the relationship. Conversely, women need the closure of the relationship if the relationship seems to be fading for 2 reasons. The first one is the confirmation that something has ended in order to be psychologically "free" to move on since women (the majority at least) tend to prefer being in one commited relationship at a time. The second reason has to do with women's innate need for certainty and security. Of course you are wondering how closure of a relationship provides security and certainly. Well, it is simple: by having (an appropriate hopefully) closure of a relationship the woman is able to justify to herself that for whatever reason that relationship had to or was forced to end and close. In that case, it is easier for a woman to be able to accept and justify it to herself and as a result move one more quickly or at least with certainty and knowledge of her next step. The question then becomes which of the two genders is stronger? The one that needs closure or the one that can live without it? Well, I will discuss that question in my next post. I am interested to hear your opinion on what we discussed today first!
